Let Go and Live!

“In order to understand where you’re going, you must first learn where you came from.”

You’ve heard this said before in one way or another, but maybe it has never truly resonated with you in the way that it is starting to resonate with me.

I never truly and fully understood this concept. I wasn’t sure what the point was in understanding my past. I believe this might have been the cause for why I was so stuck in it.

I was living life aimlessly, acting as a robot in my own relationship because I had never defined my background. I failed to come to grips with the various relationships I embarked on in the past and how I was allowing them to affect my present.

In the aftermath, I have discovered a few conclusions:

Sometimes people must learn to let go of their past so that they can embrace their present and make room to envision their future.

Without a recognized journey, how can a man continue walking and know that he’s not trailing back into where he was already?

Dwelling on the “good ol’ days” is not going to bring them back. People grow up and people change throughout time, that fact is inevitable. You can’t remain in the kiddy phase your whole life.

Grow up and grow out of what used to be and embrace what is and what will be.

Some people are too busy looking back that they are physically unable to look to the future. You can’t do both at one time and expect to remain upright in your journey. You’ll probably find yourself tripping over what is right in front of you.

Stop letting your past hover over your future. Lay the past to rest.

Live in the present and stop wandering aimlessly through life. You are to live life to the fullest!  

Just Chill and Pay Attention to the Insides

What’s the first thing someone does when a person offends them?

They automatically get in defense mode and start to tell them exactly what they want them to hear, whether it’s in a respectful or disrespectful way.

It’s very seldom that a person holds water when they feel discriminated against in any way.

But what if this wasn’t the case? What if people were actually slow to speak?

If we all began to follow the well-known phrase, “think before you speak” this world would look much differently.

How would I define the phrase, you may ask?

• think before you speak: verb phrase (used without object) 

1. to learn to look past what people show you and form your interaction with them around figuring out their depth

People are never just flesh and bone. There is always something going on inside of them that is governing how they interact with others on a daily basis.

If you learn this, and truly take it to heart, it will save you from so many different unnecessary relationship struggles.

Do not fret in doing good to others. Just because people change does not mean you have to change along with them. Don’t let outside forces bruise your inner man. You must maintain your integrity.

Here’s a challenge for you all: the next time someone does you wrong for no apparent reason, show concern for them and apologize for whatever they are going through to cause them to act so harshly. Or, if you don’t want to do that, simply let them say whatever they want to you and comply.

In this way, people would experience wisdom and they will see a light in you that may propel them to change their attitude. 

Don’t be afraid to let your light shine, to go a narrow way while the others take the wide road ahead.

What good is it to treat a man as wrongly as he treats you? You don’t have to win every minor battle.

Just chill.

The "Nobody's Perfect" Epidemic

A disease has seemingly swept the land that is keeping everyone in a state of emotional illness which has spread under the name of I’m-not-perfect-tia.

That was a joke, but it can ring true to an extent.

It has been easy for all of us to stay within the confines our imperfection, but for many of us, the time has come to be released.

We all connect on the fact that we are imperfect, but should this keep us from striving for perfection?

We are all born with flaws, and I’m not speaking only on physical flaws, I’m speaking about character flaws as well. There has been plenty of uproar about self-love and acceptance. And as far as looks go, yes, love what you have and work with it, but if this phrase begins to tread into your character then there needs to be some serious reflection and reconstruction.

Let me be clear: Your character and your character flaws are two separate things. We all have different preferences and ways of doing things and that is what makes up our character. But people should never accept your character flaws to the point where you become content in your mess. Those who you trust and love should be actively working with you to remove those things.

Many people use “I’m not perfect” as an excuse to remain in a vegetative state. If you are forever in a stagnant state of being then that must stink to those who are forever evolving.

We should ALL forever be evolving, educating ourselves on various topics. We should never believe that we have all the answers and that we are perfect just the way we are in terms of character, that is.

You must be careful not to let this “I’m not perfect” movement become the phrase you base your life upon. Never believe you have reached oasis.