How many songs, books, etc. have been written on this
question that no one can seem to pinpoint?
This may have been said a million times in so many different
ways, but I feel the need to flip the switch for someone else on the same light
that just turned on for me.
Love is not looking for someone who can give you this or
that, but it’s looking for someone who is receptive to all you give.
Though, of course, there are instances where you can love
someone with all your heart and they never love you the same way. But the idea
is that the main basis of your love came from a pure place. You loved them
unconditionally without looking to gain anything from them and it is here where
true love lies.
Too often, people get caught up in the idea that they don’t
want to lose who they are in a relationship, which causes them to give less.
The truth of the matter is there should be some change going on. And this goes
for all of your relationships, not just your romantic ones.
Love is not losing yourself, it’s putting someone else’s
needs before yours. Now, in a right relationship, the person you’re with will
make your needs a priority as well. Just think of what a reward you would be to
each other.
There is no love other than a love of sacrifice. Don’t be so
afraid to give out all your resources to the people you claim to love. Don’t be
a hoarder with harsh hands. Lovers are not hoarders.
Love has everything to do with laying yourself down (your
desires, your preferences and the like) to make someone else’s life easier. It
has little to do with “what about me?”
This “giving-of-all” view on love might make people think
it’s more of a “doormat approach,” and yes, there will be plenty of moments
like that, but when you know who you are this doesn’t alter your character.
With this view in mind, maybe the world could start looking
at “I love you” in the same light as “I’m giving you my all” which would
prevent the phrase from be used too lightly or quickly.
