Girl, who do you get dressed for?

Ladies, have you ever noticed the intricate outward details of another woman? And I mean down to her very toe nails –those kinds of details? Then, have you ever tried to speak with a man about those details? I can almost guarantee that the conversation wouldn’t go the same way if you had spoken with—let’s say—another female counterpart.

Somehow women find a way to know exactly how something is “supposed” to look on another woman, but where exactly do they get their reference point.

I find this happening to myself often. In fact, it just happened not too long ago. As I reflected on myself after noticing the hammered toe nails of another woman dressed in old, flat flip flops with dry heels, I stopped myself. Because even though she had an issue going on with her feet, she had no problem flirting with the guy on the basketball court. Nine times out of 10, maybe 8, guys won’t pay attention to that kind of stuff. They could care less about the cute, messy bun that took you an hour to perfect. Or, the extra hairs you purposely leave out of your ponytails. They see both styles as equally messy, nonetheless. 

Yesterday, I saw a hilarious post on Instagram that confirmed this thought of mine. It basically stated how women buy expensive things to impress other women because a guy never says stuff like, “she’s ugly, but that purse bro…”

If this is true, if guys truly don’t look at colored toes, baby hairs, or purses we must ask ourselves who we’re trying to look good for. I would go as far to say ourselves, or other women. The competition is real. It’s like we simultaneously criticize another woman’s style while secretly trying to do a rendition of what she did. 

In some twisted way women are naturally intimidated by other women which causes them to do an excess amount of prepping. If there hadn’t been one woman in the world wearing makeup, then the next three women wouldn’t feel the need to pile it on.

Guys’ minds are simple, girls’ mind are not. The style ideas you thought hard on, he may have thought about twice. Go ask five guys you know if they like when women wear makeup and see what they say. The results may be shocking.

Of course this isn’t something we are conscious of while we’re getting dressed for the day in the morning: “What can I wear today to make what’s-her-face jealous?” That’s not what I’m saying at all. I’m not saying to stop buying yourself expensive things or doing cool tricks to enhance your style, but to simply check your motives. If you find that it leads you down a road lacking in self-respect and love, then you make the choice on what to do.