You see, when you give a man a large part of you and you’re merely dating him, it becomes more difficult to release him once his part in your ever-going life story book has passed.
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
Be careful little mouth what you say: Combating common terms of endearment
Ladies, when it comes to our
men—especially one that we’re in love with—it’s quite common for us to get a
little ahead of ourselves and start spouting at the mouth about how much we
love him and what he means to us. Whether it’s verbally or through some
carefully composed post on [insert social network site] our words about our
loves are beautifully expressed. But what happens when those words can be the
very cuffs that are keeping our hearts and minds captive?
You see, when you give a man a large part of you and you’re merely dating him, it becomes more difficult to release him once his part in your ever-going life story book has passed.
Specifically, I am speaking on the
term “world” as it pertains to the loves of our lives. We have all seen people
post or heard people say, “He is my world.” But what is that phrase really
giving way to once it is uttered?
Think about it: if someone just
happens to become “your world” then you are unconsciously giving them rights to
your life, rights which may be an overstepping of boundaries. It is as if your
being becomes revolved around whoever they are and whatever they’re doing,
which of course is never the way a working relationship should be carried out.
It is healthy for men and women to
maintain a sort of separate life outside of their relationship because,
technically, your likes, dislikes and etc. don’t completely converge until
marriage. Unless the man is your husband, there is still a purpose for your
individual life that still needs to be completed. If he becomes your world, his
comings and goings can get tapped to the forefront of your mind and your vision
can become clouded. Many women lose out on their dreams and visions because
they’re too busy trying to support a man who can’t get it together.
I know when we say this we are not
purposely saying it in a literal way, but I think too often we give men too
much power without even being aware of it.
Be careful what words you fill your
atmosphere with.
You see, when you give a man a large part of you and you’re merely dating him, it becomes more difficult to release him once his part in your ever-going life story book has passed.
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That's good wisdom. I truly believe that women can, could, and will get ran over if you allow a man to be your word. It's mind blowing. This is a beautiful article. Very profound and we'll thought out. As a man we have to focus on respecting and not becoming somebody's world because what if our word is torn up and some young lady wants to be in it all because of good conversations good looks and and flirtation. Brokenness, pain, frustration, violence, abuse and etc can live in us men. Bit if you think about it not just women but men as well should think about we say. What we say can do a 180 in 2 sec. So be careful what you wish for.
ReplyDeleteExactly. That was a great point you made. Thank you! :)
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