Thursday, March 5, 2015

Can all the tender women please stand up? ...A look at the emotions of women who have been broken by men

I feel like there is a very uneven balance within the emotions of the broken women of today. They are either too headstrong or too emotional. There seems to be no gray area.

When I say headstrong I’m referring to those women who are too hard—overly protective of themselves because of past men who have toyed with their emotions and took them for granted. These are the women who flee from being too involved, never putting all their eggs in one basket. Resembling the characteristics of the stereotypical male player type who swears on never committing.

When I say too emotional I’m speaking about those women who are hurt by every small thing their man does or doesn’t do. Women who get upset or sad because he’s running late, or he chooses to hang with his guys one night instead of them (guilty). These are the women who turn the smallest of conversations into the largest of arguments because they are overly dependent on their man which stemmed from a lack of love from a previous relationship(s). 

Women may feel the need to lean more towards one than the other, but guess what…

There is NOTHING wrong with simply being tender. You were made to be more emotional than men. Mind you, this isn’t an excuse to drive your men crazy. There is still a certain level of emotional stress that you must be careful to release onto your men at once. 

Ladies, never overcompensate within your emotions because of some past dilemma that you experienced with other men. If you want and are ready to give and receive true love, be open to it. There’s nothing wrong with acting with caution because of something that happened in the past, but that’s all the past should be—a clearer leans for you to view life and relationships with so that when the same thing comes a long you can spot it from a mile away—not an excuse to toy with someone else’s emotions before they toy with yours. Or, cling too tightly so that they won’t let go.

There’s a fine line between emotional and annoying. 

Let’s create that gray area and dwell in it for a change.

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